SOURCES (May be outdated and no longer available)

Understanding How Others Misunderstand You, by Ken Voges and Ron Braund. Gives specific breakdowns of personality groups (beginning on page 79.) Moody Press, 1990.

Personality Profile Analysis, provided through Career Pathways, a career guidance outreach of Christian Financial Concepts. It is a guide to identifying and understanding personality strengths.

Seminars provided by National Seminars Group - "How to Handle Difficult People," "How to Handle Negativity in the Workplace," and " How to Manage Conflict and Manager Anger." Their address is: National Seminars Group, a Division of Rockhurst College Continuing Education Center, Inc. 6901 West 63rd Street, P.O. Box 2949, Shawnee Mission KS 66201-1349. (They have small booklets available on their seminar topics)

Information provided in the form of newsletters and video tape, as well as audio tape from Lifetime Guarantee, 4100 International Plaza, Suite 520, Fort Worth TX 76109

Dr. Dana Medcalf, Ph.D. His understanding of how difficult it is for us to see each other as we "really" are because we project an image onto other people that is most like us, which can cause us extreme difficulty in our lives. His Principles of Assertiveness can help us become aware of our true identity, and thus become free from bondage.

"The Jerk Book," Don't Let the Jerks get the Best of You, by Dr. Paul Meier, Thomas Nelson Publishers, 1993. Provides advice for dealing with difficult people, and also shows the need for learning to establish boundaries.

Boundaries, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Zondervan Publishing House 1992. Will help you learn when to say "yes" and when to say, "no" and to "take control of your life." A good book, again, showing the need to set boundaries.

Safe People, by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, Zondervan Publishing House, 1995. Will help those have lost "coping ability" to be able to determine people who can be an encouragement to them and recognize those who can do additional harm.

Assertiveness: Get what you want without being pushy, Booklet from National Press Publications, a Division of Rockhurst College mentioned above under seminars. Specifically gives techniques for dealing with conflict/confrontation type situations etc.

Changes that Heal, by Dr. Henry Cloud, Zondervan Publishing House, 1992. Dr. Cloud states, "We all have broken relationships with God, others and ourselves. Because of this brokenness, we develop symptoms that are felt on an emotional level and lived out in our spiritual lives." Also he shows us that we "Must take a stand otherwise we love the appoval of men, rather than the approval of God."

Caring Enough to Confront, by David Augsburger, Regal Books, Revised Ed 1981. Helps us understand "how to" and "why" we will have conflict in our lives. Also God's desires for us and others regarding confronting.

Living in the Lions Den without Being Eaten, by William Carr Peel, Navpress 1994. A step by step account of the book of Daniel, and how to apply the lessons learned from Daniel's life in today's sometime hostile culture, not only for survival, but to flourish and make a difference for God's glory.

Winning Over Your Emotions, H. Norman Wright, Harvest House Publishers, 1998. "Helpful answers that will change your life." Including the physiological effects of stress, anger, worry, and anxiety.

How to Get it Right, After You've Gotten It Wrong, Gary J. Oliver, Ph.D., Victor Books, 1995. "God Can Turn Your Setbacks into Comebacks." A look at failure through God's eyes.  Examining failure as a means to success. (One of the best books I ever read because I struggled so much with fear of failure. It gave me an entirely different perspective)

Mastering your Moods, Meier, MD, Arterburn, MD, and Minirith, MD. Nelson Publications A good book to help to understand Depression: Situational, Clinical, as well as Chemical.

Freedom of Forgiveness, Augsburger, Moody Press. Forgiveness as a path to our own freedom from the hurts and pain others have caused.

If you struggle with isolation/seclusion, the movie The Hurricane, Universal Pictures, 2000, starring Denzel Washington has quite a bit of insight to offer. It's based on a true story of a man falsely accused and is imprisoned for most of his life. I also gain insight reading about POW's and their will to survive. I've spent 10 years with Manic Depression. The first 1 1/2 years, I tried all I was told to do and I did it, but found myself unable to cope, having developed acute myotonic jerks that were triggered by real or perceived condemnation from others. This left me imprisoned in my home, afraid to go out, and I became more and more consumed with fear. I had to learn to live my life differently than before; have my eyes opened as to why this had happened. After all, I had worked in the work place for 17 years, and 4 additional years as a Realtor. These are a few of the sources that helped me do that. The greatest source for my strength and re-programming was from God who showed me that "He Loved Me." I learned to get great strength in knowing that the God of the Universe Loved Me and He would never leave me nor forsake me, that He even sent His Son to die for me. With that kind of strength and understanding, there is nothing to fear. There is no one that can do anything to you that God is not aware of.

I offer what I have learned for those who are willing to request it. I am not a counselor; I am just someone who has learned quite a bit on a journey that I did not volunteer for, but one that has made me "better" having lived my journey.

Postcards from Heaven, by Claire Cloninger, Word Publishers, 1992. "Messages of Hope, Courage, and Comfort from God's Heart to Yours."